Monday, November 9, 2009

Fears and Doubts

I know it's too late to change our minds about this whole baby thing. But y'know, i'm starting to kinda have doubts. OK, well maybe not doubts... but a whole lotta fears. I've been hearing so many stories lately about babies that are up all night. Babies that cry all the time. Babies that can't/won't breastfeed. New moms who are depressed. Overwhelmed. Sad. Scared. It seems i'm only hearing the negative stuff to new mommyhood lately... and to be honest, it's kind of freaking me out. I mean, if that's how it is - why do people have babies?? INTENTIONALLY? :) I'm only kidding of course, but there is some truth to my statement. Do they really bring so much joy, that it makes all the heartache, sleep deprivation, painful breasts, and lack of money, well fitting wardrobe & a social life worth it? These are all things that ran through my mind before making the choice of becoming pregnant (yes, this baby was very much planned and well thought out) but now it's really hitting me. What have we gotten ourselves into?!?!?! In just two months, our entire world as we've known it will completely be turned upside down and all around - and as much as I hope and pray it'll be for the better, I'm totally terrified my fears will become reality! And what's worse - as much as i'm terrified i'm gonna hate being a mom, i'm even MORE terrified i'm gonna be a terrible one! Is me writing this blog already setting me up to be a terrible mom? Do good moms actually have this fear before even giving birth? Geez, I hope what i'm feeling is normal. This is scary stuff!

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Sorta setting in now.


Yesterday was a big "baby day". I had (a week late) my 28 week glucose screening, rogam shot, flu shot, blood draw, monthly appointment, and ultrasound! After that, we went to our 1st of 6 birthing classes! What an eye-opening experience. We pretty much spent the time getting to know eachother, and taking a tour of the birthing unit.
Cameron is very healthy and content in there! He's measuring big at 3.4 lbs (scares me, his daddy was almost 10 at birth), and i'm measuring more than a week ahead! He's an active little guy, I feel him squirming and kicking all the time. Just the other day, Bri and I both felt him hiccuping for the first time! Unbelievable!
Add onto our awesome day yesterday, the day before last we put together his crib. It's *really* looking like a nursery now! I SOOO love his room, it's coming together beautifully, and will be sure to post pics when everything is complete. Sure has come a long way!
I never thought I could be so happy, or so in love... both with my husband, and with a little boy i've never met. Seeing the images captured on the left really made me feel even more strongly for him, which I didn't think was possible. As excited as I am to finally meet him, I will really miss being pregnant - and knowing he's in me, safe and protected.




Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Happy Anniversary to us :)

When they say time passes quickly when you've got a child, I didn't realize that included while you were expecting one! I can't believe it's been two months since i've updated this blog - and that I'm almost 7 months pregnant. When and how did that happen? WOW! 28 weeks today. Craziness.

Things are going really well. I'm still feeling and doing great - although looking great is another story. I have a lot of extra skin from losing a large amt of weight over the past few years, but add on top of that a lot of fat I still need to lose, in addition to the baby, my belly is HUGE but it hangs way down, I have a big "muffin top" and I long for that cute, round baby bump that everyone else at my stage of pregnancy has. I can honestly say, that unless I wear the PERFECT shirt (which doesn't exist) I look like a woman with a very unfortunate body shape who waddles when she walks. It makes me very insecure - no shirts I have are long enough to cover the mound of skin I have hanging down (which most pregnant woman DONT HAVE) and certainly nothing covers the muffin top hanging out of the top (which, again, at 7 months pregnant I shouldn't be sporting). It's my biggest, and only, complaint of pregnancy. I look like sh!t. And no, i'm not exxagerating. And no, don't feel the need to say "you look great" 'cuz i know that's something you're supposed to say to every pregnant woman. Sure, i'm glowing. That's about the extent of my "greatness". Sucks.

On a happier front, Happy 2nd Anniversary to Brian and I!! We're celebrating by taking a "Babymoon" on Cape Cod - Brian is asleep in our hotel bed as I type this :) Our friend got us a time share for only $350 for the week, so we decided to go someplace totally different, somewhere we've never been before. He and I were very skeptical (completely off season down here, didn't know what to expect or what to do, afraid to leave our dog at home with someone new, etc). We were even MORE skeptical when we checked into our room. I can't even describe to you what a dump this place is - but let me try! We were "greeted" (I put that in quotes 'cuz i'd hardly call it a greeting) by the front desk girl, who was in sweats playing farmville on her computer. Nice. We walk by all the other rooms, that had paint chipping off of the very dirty windows. Euw. Our front door is covered in rust. Nice. We walk into the kitchenette - which is nothing more than a 12" sink, a stove top with two TINY burners that have aluminum foil for drip pans (no joke), a microwave that didn't even fit my 14" pizza, and a fridge that's a year ahead of being avacodo green.

Our entertainment center has a 19" TV (i'm shocked it's got a remote) and a combo RECORD PLAYER/CASSETTE PLAYER!!! Oh damn Bri, we didn't bring our records!! (insert eye roll here). There is a very uncomfortable sleeper sofa in this room, but I don't know how there could be any room to open it, as it is only a couple feet from the TV. Move into the bedroom... there is a massive hot tub, straight out of 1983, that fills up half the room. It also has a double bed... and on the nightstand is a phone that's almost as old as many rotary phones I had in my early childhood. Speaking of which, an alarm clock I had when I was 10 is also in the room. No lie, I think it's the same one.To end the "tour" the bathroom is SOOO tiny... and (surprise surprise) incredibly outdated. A dinky shower that my pregnant ass can barely bend over in, a toilet I have to squeeze by the sink to get into, and a sink SO small, it barely fits my toothbrush and soap. The towels may as well be sandpaper - and they only change them once a week. There are brass fixtures everywhere, popcorn ceilings, HIDEOUS fabrics, colors and decor... the place just screams 1980s. They only change sheets and towels on Tuesdays, and we came home today and it hadn't been done! WTF? At least we got to keep our $5 tip :) Dispite lackluster (at best) accommodations...


We are having a GREAT TIME! The cape is absolutely beautiful!!! And best of all, because it's off season, there are no crowds at all. I actually think Fall is the perfect time to visit here - although there are less things to do than in the summer, it gives you an excuse to get out and explore - something I hear is impossible to do down here in the summer 'cuz you're fighting traffic and crowds.

On day 1, we just took a road trip around 1/2 of the Cape. We came across lots of great little shops and restaurants on Rte. 6A and also Rte. 28. We stopped at a few lighthouses, some nice beaches, a bunch of stores, a couple fabulous restaurants, toured the Cape Cod chip factory, and just enjoyed the ride and eachother. The clouds went away just long enough for us to enjoy a beautiful sunset on the beach - where Bri carved "I love Angie and Cam" on the shore. Awwww!!! We finished our day at a really great restaurant - we ate in a real caboose! Brian said he ate some of the best scallops he's ever put in my mouth. Hm, i'm sensing a challenge here :)

Yesterday we took another road trip, with our final destination being Provincetown. Along the way we toured a lighthouse... and had the most stunning, indescribable, panoramic view of a marsh. After a few more scenic stops, we arrived in P-town. Ecclectic and diverse is the best way I can describe the town, the stores, and the PEOPLE!! We could have sat at a street corner all day and just watched everyone go by. Colorful town, that is :) It's also soooo gorgeous - the beaches are unreal. We watched the sunset over dozens of acres of sand dunes... and felt like we were the only people there. Afterwards, we also had one of the best meals of our lives. "The Mews" really deserves the #1 rated restaurant in P-town, and the Cape. Unbelievable.

Today we will be going on a scenic 2 hour train ride, and do some shopping in Hyannis. Not sure what's in store for the rest of the week, but i'm sure we'll have a great time with whatever we end up doing :) I didn't think it was possible, but I love this man more and more every day.

In more "baby news" our nursery is coming along beautifully!!!! My friend/coworker Sara painted us a gorgeous mural and it's exactly as I pictured it in my mind! My amazing mother (who has already done waaaay too much, she has a way of always going overboard, she's truly an incredible person) has finished completely refinishing/reupholstering a glider chair, and she sewed curtains for the closet, which Brian finally finished installing. The only thing we're waiting on is carpet to be put installed (already been purchased) and everything else is ready to go in! I can't WAIT to get that done so I can finally see the finished product. It's going to be such a gorgeous room! Considering what it started as (we had no idea what a huge ordeal this room would be) it makes me extra excited.

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

It's not a secret anymore :)

Well, they know! They know "it" is a he, and they know he has a name! Our family came over for dinner on Sunday afternoon. Brian's parents and my mom and grandma showed up at 12:30, and we had to wait more than TWO WHOLE HOURS for my dad to make his appearance. (He was coming by on his way home from work). The wait for all of them was torture. It was very amusing to sit back, and hear them discuss what they were "sooo sure" it was gonna be... when my dad finally showed up, I had them all pick a cupcake - pink or blue icing! Dad and Grandma picked pink, Brian's parents and my mom picked blue. It was fun seeing their reaction when they realized who had (and didn't have) the raspberry filling in their cupcakes!

After they all learned that we are having a boy, they then started pestering us on what his name was gonna be. I said "well, some things need to be a surprise! You'll hafta wait 'till he's born!" Well let me tell you, that did NOT go over well! So I said "Oh, but we DO have ONE more surprise!". I presented my mom with a gift... it was the lamb from build-a-bear that I originally gave her back in May for Mother's Day, telling her we were pregnant. I stole it back from her :) On his bib, we embroidered his name!!! And it is...













Wow, was she (and everyone else) surprised! We really love his name! Eugene is my dad and brother's middle name, and my Grandfather (and uncle)'s name is Ron. It worked out perfectly... They all seemed to love his name, and are VERY happy we shared it with them :) It was a great day, and I'm so glad everything is out in the open now! I've never been good at keeping secrets - especially from my family!

Now that we know he's a boy, and that he has a name, and I'm starting to show, and feel him move... it really feels "real" now. Early this morning, around 2 am, Brian was hugging my stomach like it was a pillow... and kissing it. I can't tell you how much that touched me. We already feel like such a family... even though we haven't met our little boy yet. I get an overwhelming feeling of emotion when I think about how Brian and I created this life, and that it's growing inside of me. It's unreal. We're so in love - with eachother, and our little man. I can hardly wait to meet him. For now, i'm *really* loving carrying him.

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Hello, and WELCOME!

Well I suppose there's a first for everything!

Welcome!

I can't claim to be a good writer, but I do promise to do my best at using proper spelling, punctuation and grammar. I also promise to talk a LOT about my amazing husband, my crazy dog (named Goo - Gracie Goo, that is) and the amazing life that's growing inside of me. As of today, I am 19 weeks and 3 days pregnant!

Two days ago, August 20th, Brian and I went for our BIG ultrasound. The day we'd see our little life moving, wiggling, dancing and shaking before our eyes. The day our little life will tell us if it's a boy or a girl. Well folks, it was obvious to see that "it" is indeed a BOY!!!!

While I was "talking myself" into hearing that it was going to be a boy, for some reason it was still quite a shock. Brian of course looked as giddy as could be. I well, didn't have quite the same emotion. I'm almost ashamed to admit I felt a bit of disappointment. When all was said and done and we went back into the waiting room, I even teared up a bit - but not in a happy way. I felt like SUCH a terrible mother! How could I be disappointed I was having a son - the same baby we tried for nearly a year to have? The same baby I've been dreaming about and shopping for and planning my life around for the past 4 months?!?! What should have been one of the best moments of my life, my emotions were completely ruining it for me! Why wasn't I thrilled I was having a little boy? And why wasn't I jumping for joy this little boy is thriving and healthy???

While we were registering at Babies R Us for baby things, I really started coming around. Looking at all the sweet little boys in the store, seeing all the adorable boyish looking things (puppy dog stuff, lots of red sox and patriots gear), it felt so much more real... and all of a sudden, all things "pink" didn't look as appealing. I was shopping for my SON!

Bri and I then went for a really great lunch in York, at "Lobster in the Rough". We ate outdoors, talked about all the things we needed, all the things we are looking forward to doing with our little boy... After lunch, we headed to The Children's Place where we bought his entire summer wardrobe! (For a killer deal, might I add! Got maybe 10 outfits, including shoes and hats, for less than $40!). What made it all even better, is that our little man has a name. One we've completely agreed on, absolutely love, and put in writing. Giving him an identity... a name.... makes it SO much more real. After such a great day, I felt VERY silly for feeling that 30 minutes of disappointment! I went from not realizing how badly I wanted a little girl, to not knowing how much I, in actuality, really wanted a baby boy! What made the day even more special, is for the 1st time I *really* felt him move! Not just little flutters, but full-on movement! Incredible.

None of our family or parents know "it" is a "he" yet. We're telling both sets of parents tomorrow night after dinner. We got this AMAZING cake (chocolate and vanilla with a raspberry filling and butter cream frosting) decorated in pink and blue. The top says "Our bundle of joy. Girl or boy?". Surrounding the cake are 8 cupcakes. 4 pink, 4 blue. The blue ones are filled with raspberry filling. Our parents will be asked to take the cupcake they think we're having. On the count of three, they'll all bite into it at the same time. Whoever's got the filling, guessed right!

We have another surprise planned for the night - our parents think we're not sharing the name with anyone until the birth. What they don't know, is that our baby's name is embroidered on the bib of the bear I gave to my mom on Mother's Day, telling her that we were pregnant. (For those who don't know, I gave her a build-a-bear (lamb, actually) dressed in baby gear, and I recorded in his left paw our news. Best Mother's Day Gift EVER!!!) I stole this lamb from her, and will give it back to her after she knows we're having a boy - and she will then see the bib, and know his name. Part of it is a family name, that I'm sure her and my dad will be incredibly touched by. Name to be announced shortly. :) :) :) I'm so excited for the dinner tomorrow night, and will be sure to take lots of pics (decor, cake, bear, reaction, etc) and post them here!

On a sad note, my brother Eric is currently in the hospital. He's had on-going swelling/blood flow issues with his legs and always needs to wear compression stockings to keep the swelling down. Last Sunday, his right leg really started bothering him. It was especially swollen, and hurt quite a bit. He tried brushing it off that day and the next. On Tuesday, he couldn't ignore it anymore - and Amy, his loving girlfriend (and a dear friend of mine) insisted he go to the hospital. He was admitted with a VERY high fever, and a horrible infection (cellulitis). His fever has come down, and he's not in as much pain, but after 4 days, he's still there and they're not sure when he'll be home. His leg is now starting to blister pretty badly, which leaves him susceptible to further infection (as those blisters are now starting to pop). Eric doesn't have any insurance (health OR disability) so it's gonna be tough for him to pay his bills, or receive the follow-up care he desperately needs. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers!!!

Well I suppose I should end it here, but will be sure to update in a few days. Thanks for reading this far. I look forward to sharing our life's journey with you! xoxo.

~Angela